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When forgiveness does not heal the wound

My girlfriend cheated on me eight months ago and I forgave her but I check her phone constantly and I hate who I have become.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Choosing to forgive and actually trusting again are two entirely different processes that operate on different timelines.

Ideas that help explain it
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