Periagoge
Scenario

When spouses adapt differently to a child's gender transition

My adult daughter came out as transgender and my spouse is struggling with using her new name and pronouns while I adapted more quickly and now there's tension between us about how to support her and whether we're both being accepting enough.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Partners are experiencing different speeds of adjustment to fundamental changes in how they understand their child, creating conflict about whose response is more loving or appropriate.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parental identity — becoming and losing?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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