My brother is successful in exactly the way our family values and I've chosen a completely different path that doesn't translate to their language of achievement, and we love each other but when we're together I can feel both of us performing — him downplaying his success, me defending choices I'm not actually insecure about until I'm around them.
More people experience this than they realize.
The invisible labor of maintaining sibling connection across different value systems while managing family expectations and judgments.
“Where Are You with Sibling identity dynamics?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.