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Scenario

When meditation partners have different understandings of no-self

My meditation partner and I have been studying anatta together for months, but she keeps talking about 'my practice' and 'my insights' and 'finding myself' through Buddhism, and I don't know how to point out that this seems to miss the whole point without sounding condescending. We're supposed to be supporting each other but I feel like we're studying completely different teachings.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two practitioners are experiencing fundamental disagreement about whether Buddhist practice leads to self-discovery or self-dissolution.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with No-self and identity in Buddhist thought?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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