My Pacific Islander partner and I are planning our wedding and we can't agree on how to honor fa'afafine traditions in our ceremony when my family doesn't understand non-binary gender roles and his family expects us to follow them. We keep having the same circular conversation about whose comfort matters more.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are caught between honoring ancestral gender practices and managing family expectations that don't align.
“Where Are You with Pacific gender diversity?”
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