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Scenario

When couples disagree about incorporating Pacific gender traditions in major life events

My Pacific Islander partner and I are planning our wedding and we can't agree on how to honor fa'afafine traditions in our ceremony when my family doesn't understand non-binary gender roles and his family expects us to follow them. We keep having the same circular conversation about whose comfort matters more.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are caught between honoring ancestral gender practices and managing family expectations that don't align.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Pacific gender diversity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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