My partner and I are both ADHD and we keep having the same fight about household tasks where I hyperfocus and clean everything obsessively for hours while they can't get started at all, and we both end up feeling like failures in completely different ways.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with the same neurotype are discovering their coping mechanisms are incompatible and creating mutual shame.
“Where Are You with Neurodivergent identity — autism and ADHD?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.