My partner and I are both kothi but we express our gender so differently that people in our community treat us like we're not even in the same category, and it's creating tension between us about how visible we should be in spaces where we're not understood.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people sharing a gender identity discover that external perceptions of their different expressions are driving a wedge between them.
“Where Are You with South Asian gender diversity — hijra and kothi?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.