My partner and I are both mixed-race but from completely different backgrounds and when people ask 'what we are' at social events we handle it so differently that it's starting to create tension between us. They're comfortable with the whole explanation every time and I just want to exist without performing my identity, but we can't figure out how to navigate this as a couple.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people with different approaches to mixed-race visibility are struggling to find a shared way of moving through social spaces without compromising their individual authenticity.
“Where Are You with Mixed-race identity and belonging?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.