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Scenario

When mixed-race couples handle identity questions differently in social situations

My partner and I are both mixed-race but from completely different backgrounds and when people ask 'what we are' at social events we handle it so differently that it's starting to create tension between us. They're comfortable with the whole explanation every time and I just want to exist without performing my identity, but we can't figure out how to navigate this as a couple.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people with different approaches to mixed-race visibility are struggling to find a shared way of moving through social spaces without compromising their individual authenticity.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Mixed-race identity and belonging?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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