My partner and I both grew up poor but we handle money completely differently now that we have some - I save everything because I'm terrified of being broke again and they spend freely because they never want to feel deprived. We can't talk about it without one of us feeling judged for our survival strategy.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people are trying to build financial security together while honoring completely different trauma responses around scarcity.
“Where Are You with Cultural assimilation vs. preservation?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.