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Scenario

When partners are at different stages of examining cisgender identity

My partner and I both identify as cisgender but we've been having conversations about gender that are making me question assumptions I've held my whole life about what that even means. They're further along in examining their relationship to gender norms and I'm realizing how much of my identity I've built around being 'just a normal woman' without ever thinking about it critically.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Two people are navigating the disorienting process of questioning fundamental assumptions about gender identity at different paces, creating tension around who they thought they were together.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Cisgender identity examined?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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