My partner and I both identify as non-binary but we come from different cultural backgrounds and when we visit their family, they present much more traditionally while I struggle with whether to code-switch or stay authentic to myself. We haven't found a way to navigate these visits that honors both our need for safety and our relationship to our identities.
More people experience this than they realize.
Cultural safety and gender authenticity create competing demands that partners must negotiate together without clear roadmaps.
“Where Are You with Gender non-conformity across cultures?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.