My romantic partner and I joined a polyamory community together when we opened our relationship, but she's thriving socially and I'm struggling to connect, and it's making me question whether I'm actually polyamorous or just trying to be someone I'm not to keep up with her growth. The community keeps telling us we're on different timelines but it feels deeper than that.
More people experience this than they realize.
Differential adaptation to a new community is forcing them to confront whether their chosen identities are authentic or performed.
“Where Are You with Self-concept and how it forms?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.