My sister got promoted to partner at her law firm and suddenly everyone in the family treats her like she's the successful one, even though we've always been equals. I'm proud of her but I also feel like I've become invisible, and when we're together at family events there's this weird new dynamic where people defer to her opinion on everything.
More people experience this than they realize.
Success in one sibling is reorganizing long-established family hierarchies, forcing both siblings to renegotiate their identities within the family system.
“Where Are You with Sibling identity dynamics?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.