My spouse and I are both mixed-race but they can pass as white and I can't, which creates these moments in public where we're treated completely differently and then we don't know how to process it together afterward. We love each other but this difference in how the world sees us is something we haven't learned to navigate as a couple.
More people experience this than they realize.
Partners must address how differential treatment based on racial appearance affects their relationship and shared understanding of the world.
“Where Are You with Mixed-race identity and belonging?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.