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When couples in similar fields develop competing ideas about meaningful work

My spouse and I both work in social justice but in very different contexts - they work with policy and I do direct service - and we're starting to judge each other's work as either too removed from real impact or too small-scale to matter. It's creating distance between us when we used to feel like we were on the same team.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Partners who share values can become estranged when they develop different theories of change that implicitly critique each other's choices.

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