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Scenario

When friend groups split over allyship expectations

Our friend group has been really supportive since I started using they/them pronouns, but there's this weird dynamic where some friends are 'perfect' with pronouns and others still slip up regularly, and the perfect ones are getting frustrated with the ones who mess up. I feel caught in the middle because I don't want my identity to become a source of conflict in our group, but I also need the support to continue.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Personal growth becomes a group dynamic where different rates of change create hierarchy and judgment within a supportive community.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Non-binary and genderqueer identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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