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When compliments reveal hidden assumptions

Every time someone compliments my English I want to scream because I was born here and they're really just commenting on my face.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Microaggressions disguised as praise can repeatedly signal that belonging is conditional and appearance determines assumption.

Worth thinking about

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