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How to handle family members who claim they're trying but keep hurting you

I came out as non-binary six months ago and my mom keeps saying she's trying but still deadnames me in front of relatives and I don't know if I should keep being patient or set harder boundaries.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The gap between stated good intentions and harmful actions forces impossible choices between family connection and self-protection.

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