Periagoge
Scenario

When allies become enforcers of your identity

I came out as nonbinary to my progressive friends who now police my pronouns more aggressively than I ever asked them to.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned advocacy can transform personal identity into public performance, removing individual agency from self-definition.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Adopted identity — chosen and given?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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