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How premature forgiveness can steal necessary grief

I forgave my alcoholic father before he died and everyone says I am at peace, but I feel robbed of my anger.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Society's pressure to forgive can force the abandonment of legitimate rage before it has served its purpose.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Justice and forgiveness — the tension?”

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