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When adoption decisions face adult judgment from relinquished children

I got pregnant at 16 and gave up my daughter for adoption but now she's 18 and angry that I chose the adoptive parents over her.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Birth parents' protective choices get reinterpreted as abandonment when adoptees develop independent perspectives on their placement.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Adopted identity — chosen and given?”

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