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Why dramatic physical change can reveal others' hidden biases

I had weight loss surgery and lost 150 pounds, and now people treat me completely differently, being nicer to me in ways that make me angry about how they treated me before.

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More people experience this than they realize.

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Transformation can expose the conditional nature of others' respect, creating grief for the dignity that was withheld from your former self.

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