Periagoge
Scenario

Why compliments about competence can feel like insults

I keep getting praised for being so articulate and professional but it feels like they're surprised that someone who looks like me can speak well.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Praise that carries undertones of low expectations reveals biased assumptions while creating discomfort for the recipient.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Privilege and its acknowledgment?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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