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Why compliments about competence can feel like insults

I keep getting praised for being so articulate and professional but it feels like they're surprised that someone who looks like me can speak well.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Praise that carries undertones of low expectations reveals biased assumptions while creating discomfort for the recipient.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

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