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How to navigate cross-cultural relationships when your identity gets exoticized

I present as masculine but I am fa'afafine and my white girlfriend keeps asking me to explain myself in ways that make me feel like a museum exhibit.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Intimate relationships become sites of cultural translation where the burden of education can eclipse genuine connection.

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