I said something racist during an argument at work and my Black coworker won't speak to me and I don't know if apologizing will make it worse or if staying silent is worse.
More people experience this than they realize.
The aftermath of causing identity-based harm exposes how the perpetrator's discomfort often seeks resolution more urgently than the victim's healing.
“Where Are You with Punitive vs. restorative approaches to harm?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.