Periagoge
Scenario

When workplace pronoun adoption feels more performative than genuine

I started using they/them pronouns at work six months ago and some colleagues make an obvious effort while others pretend they didn't hear the conversation, and both responses feel performative.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Others' visible effort to accommodate your identity can feel as alienating as their resistance, highlighting the gap between compliance and true acceptance.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Converting — gaining a new identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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