I started using they/them pronouns at work six months ago and some colleagues make an obvious effort while others pretend they didn't hear the conversation, and both responses feel performative.
More people experience this than they realize.
Others' visible effort to accommodate your identity can feel as alienating as their resistance, highlighting the gap between compliance and true acceptance.
“Where Are You with Converting — gaining a new identity?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.