I told my best friend I think I'm asexual and they said they've always wondered why I never talk about finding people attractive, which made me realize how much I've been performing normalcy without even knowing it.
More people experience this than they realize.
Discovering that one's authentic self has been invisible even to close friends can reveal the extent to which performative normalcy has shaped one's social existence.
“Where Are You with Asexual and aromantic identity?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.