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Scenario

How to process recognition of unconscious performance around asexual identity

I told my best friend I think I'm asexual and they said they've always wondered why I never talk about finding people attractive, which made me realize how much I've been performing normalcy without even knowing it.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Discovering that one's authentic self has been invisible even to close friends can reveal the extent to which performative normalcy has shaped one's social existence.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Asexual and aromantic identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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