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Why bisexual identity becomes invisible in monogamous relationships

I'm attracted to people regardless of gender but everyone assumes I'm straight when I'm with my boyfriend and gay when I'm with my girlfriend and I feel like my identity disappears depending on who I'm dating.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

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Others' assumptions about relationships erase the complexity of attraction that exists beyond current partnerships.

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