Periagoge
Scenario

Why colorist compliments feel good even when they hurt

I've been dating this guy for six months and he keeps making comments about how I'm 'exotic' looking and not like other Indian girls, and I hate that part of me likes the attention.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Receiving validation that positions you as exceptional within your racial group creates internal conflict about acceptance and belonging.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Colorism and intraracial identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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