I've been told I'm 'pretty for a dark girl' so many times that I don't know how to accept compliments that don't come with qualifiers anymore.
More people experience this than they realize.
Conditional praise based on colorist exceptions trains individuals to expect and accept diminished forms of validation.
“Where Are You with Colorism and intraracial identity?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.