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When allies center themselves in their support of LGBTQ+ people

My best friend since college started dating a trans woman and now makes comments about how 'woke' and 'open-minded' he is that make me uncomfortable but I can't figure out why.

Juana
Online
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned support can become self-congratulatory performance that misses the point of genuine allyship.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Queer identity as political and personal?”

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