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Scenario

When allies center themselves in their support of LGBTQ+ people

My best friend since college started dating a trans woman and now makes comments about how 'woke' and 'open-minded' he is that make me uncomfortable but I can't figure out why.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Well-intentioned support can become self-congratulatory performance that misses the point of genuine allyship.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Queer identity as political and personal?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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