My boss keeps complimenting how articulate I am and it makes my skin crawl but I cannot explain why without sounding ungrateful.
More people experience this than they realize.
Racially coded compliments create double-bind situations where objection appears unreasonable despite legitimate discomfort.
“Where Are You with Racial identity — lived experience?”
Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.