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When romantic praise depends on rejecting female solidarity

My boyfriend said he loves that I am not like other girls and I realized that was supposed to be a compliment but it made me feel sick.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Being valued for distance from your own gender creates a foundation of internalized misogyny in intimate relationships.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Femininity — constructed and contested?”

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