Periagoge
Scenario

When coming out seems motivated by perceived shared identity

My college roommate came out to me as lesbian after I told her I was questioning my sexuality and now I wonder if she only trusted me because she thought I was queer too.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The strategic nature of disclosure reveals how safety calculations shape even intimate friendships.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Queer identity as political and personal?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.