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When friends seek forgiveness you cannot grant

My college roommate's family owns land that was part of a plantation and she keeps talking about turning it into a memorial, but every conversation feels like she wants me to absolve her of something I cannot fix.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desire for personal absolution places an inappropriate burden on relationships across lines of historical harm.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Reparations — the philosophical case?”

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