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Scenario

When the person who hurt you is also suffering

My coworker spread rumors about me that cost me a promotion and when I confronted her she broke down crying about her divorce and now I feel guilty for being angry.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The presence of pain in those who cause harm complicates the narrative of victim and perpetrator without erasing the reality of injury.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Punitive vs. restorative approaches to harm?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.