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When dating means calculating cultural labor in advance

My dating profile says I am open to all ethnicities but I keep swiping past white men because I am tired of explaining my culture to people who fetishize it.

Juana
Online
The coach is replying

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Romantic relationships require pre-screening for cultural competence when identity becomes a site of potential objectification rather than genuine connection.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Postcolonial identity and decolonization?”

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