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When exes weaponize your sexual identity

My ex-boyfriend told everyone that I 'turned bi' after we broke up and now people think my identity is just revenge against men.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Having your authentic self-discovery reframed as reaction or revenge diminishes your agency and reduces your truth to a response to someone else.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Bisexual and pansexual identity?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.