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Scenario

How colorist acceptance undermines authentic relationships

My ex-boyfriend's family loved me but I overheard his mom tell someone I was 'one of the good ones' because I'm light-skinned, and now I question if anyone loves the real me.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Being accepted by others' families due to colorist preferences can create doubt about whether relationships are based on genuine connection.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Colorism and intraracial identity?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

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