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How colorist acceptance undermines authentic relationships

My ex-boyfriend's family loved me but I overheard his mom tell someone I was 'one of the good ones' because I'm light-skinned, and now I question if anyone loves the real me.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Being accepted by others' families due to colorist preferences can create doubt about whether relationships are based on genuine connection.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Colorism and intraracial identity?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.