My ex got remarried and my kids call his new wife by a version of 'mom' and I smile and say it's fine but I feel like I'm being erased.
More people experience this than they realize.
Parental identity feels threatened when children form primary attachments with parental figures outside the original family structure.
“Where Are You with Parental identity — becoming and losing?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.