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Scenario

Why apologies from former abusers feel dangerous

My ex-husband emotionally manipulated me for fifteen years and recently sent me a long apology letter, and I want to believe he's changed but I also don't trust my own judgment about him anymore.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

A survivor questions their ability to discern genuine change from familiar manipulation patterns.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Ubuntu justice — healing over punishment?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.