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When protecting yourself might harm those you love

My ex-wife is badmouthing me to our kids after our divorce and my lawyer says I can take her to court but I'm worried that fighting about it will hurt the kids more.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The ripple effects of seeking justice can create new injuries for innocent parties, forcing a calculation between personal vindication and collective wellbeing.

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