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How to handle identity gatekeeping within LGBTQ communities

My girlfriend broke up with me because she said I am not gay enough since I have dated men before and still find some attractive.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Belonging in marginalized communities sometimes requires performing purity that denies the complexity of human experience.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Gay and lesbian identity across cultures?”

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