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When success feels like betrayal of your family's sacrifices

My parents cleaned houses for forty years so I could become a doctor and now I feel guilty every time I spend money on anything they would consider luxury like organic groceries or a massage.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The weight of intergenerational sacrifice creates a prison of guilt around enjoying the very success it was meant to enable.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with First-generation identity?”

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