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When family trauma complicates the decision to parent

My parents were abusive and I'm terrified I'll repeat their patterns but I also don't want their damage to prevent me from having kids.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Intergenerational trauma creates complex calculations about whether parental desire outweighs risk of perpetuating harm.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parental identity — becoming and losing?”

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