My teenage daughter gets straight A's while my son struggles with C's, but my husband keeps praising her for being 'naturally smart' and telling him to 'try harder' and I can see it's breaking something in both of them.
More people experience this than they realize.
The mythology of meritocracy collides with the reality that equal treatment and fair treatment are not the same thing.
“Where Are You with Fairness — what every civilization concluded?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.