Periagoge
Scenario

Why compliments can be forms of othering

My teenage daughter is dating a white boy and his parents keep making comments about how exotic she looks and she thinks it is a compliment.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Your child is internalizing objectification as appreciation, unable to recognize the dehumanizing nature of being treated as exotic rather than equal.

Your guide for this
Juana
Juana works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The minority experience in majority spaces?”

Peri

Peri can explain why this happens, help you decide if this is the right situation for you, and point toward the right journey or coach.

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.