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When your child says they hate you and means it

My teenager told me they hate me for the first time and I know they mean it right now and I cannot stop crying because I used to be their whole world.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The fierce love that defines parental identity becomes a source of profound vulnerability when children reject it.

Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Parental identity — becoming and losing?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.