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When people-pleasing erases sense of personal desire

My therapist asked me what I want and I realized I have no idea because I have spent my whole life figuring out what everyone else needs from me.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Socialization toward others' needs can create a profound disconnection from one's own wants and preferences.

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