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How to find yourself after years of people-pleasing

My therapist keeps asking me what I want but I've spent so long being what other people needed that I genuinely don't know who I am when no one is watching.

Juana
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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

He's confronting the realization that his sense of self has been constructed entirely through external validation rather than internal knowing.

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